Ways to Have a Conversation With Your Older Loved One About Memory Loss

Memory loss is quite prevalent among older adults in America. More frequent cases are being reported. You must be cautious if you have an older loved one dealing with the issue since it could be an early warning sign of dementia. The earlier it is diagnosed, the better. It is often seen that older adults facing memory loss refuse to admit to the fact that they are dealing with something. They refuse to the extent of completely dismissing your suggestions for them to get help. Until and unless there is a proper discussion on the same, no solution can be reached by brushing it under the carpet.

This blog aims to discuss exactly that- a few effective ways to have a conversation with your aging parent about memory loss- a very common sticking point encountered by families (who’ve aging parents dealing with memory loss). The problem has to be addressed and nipped in the bud before it worsens beyond repair. Also, having an early conversation will help you to chalk out the right type of senior living in Anthem. This could be specialized memory care at acclaimed assisted living and memory care facilities, such as the highly acclaimed Anthem Senior Homes in Phoenix.

It is a common problem faced by families that their older adults refuse to discuss that they are dealing with memory loss altogether when you raise your concerns in regards to their memory. Or, they might be completely unaware of the difficulties they are at the receiving end of to begin with so they deny there’s an issue (one big warning sign of Alzheimer’s disease– the most common form of dementia). One is bound to get frustrated, but the key here is not to. Yes, forgetfulness is a normal part of aging. But what is not normal is poor short-term memory and frequent confusion. It could be a sign of an issue with one’s functioning of brain (cognitive impairment). This necessitates medical evaluation right away to figure out the exact cause.

Here are some ways to talk to your parent about the issue:

It must be noted here that you have to exercise a lot of patience as you go about the situation. There’s nothing like a quick fix. The key here is to change your communication approach as you make headway.

1. First and foremost, instead of forcing your (memory loss) concerns upon them just concentrate on activities to get the conversation about memory loss flow smoothly without the topic becoming apparent. Find out how your loved one is feeling about the situation. You have to understand their understanding of the situation.
2. Do not try to get them to understand, convince or agree. Instead connect with your beloved, they should feel validated. 
3. It is a good idea to observe your parent (in terms of specific signs or difficulties they are facing, for example, difficulty carrying out self-care tasks like dressing, brushing, etc.) prior to embarking on the conversation. Get their perspective on the matter. The responsibility lies with you to create a safe space for them to express their feelings and concerns (their awareness about the problem, the reason they think is behind the issue they are experiencing, their fears, etc.).
4. Make an effort to validate your loved one’s emotions, concerns and perspectives even if they say things you don’t agree with or aren’t true.
5. Make sure for the conversation to generate a positive feeling for your loved one (and not the other way round where they get more fearful).

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